FIND BALANCE AND FLOW
unsuspected solutions for sometimes unsuspected issues
I guide individuals who struggle with (complex) mental health issues that are longstanding
and hard to pin down.
Individuals who have tried quite a few different therapeutic modalities and have made some progress but not enough. Or who are ready to take things a notch deeper.
VISION
Everybody heals differently.
Some of you will just want to come out of a dysfunctional pattern, such as social phobia, OCD, or worrying, and start enjoying rewarding relationships.
Others want to learn skills, and yet others keep searching for an ever more effortless life and are not satisfied with ‘that’s just who I am’, slightly chaotic, addicted, or always late.
We tend to get used to our unhelpful patterns, ientify with them, and find ways around them. We think our survival strategies are our personality. However, this avoidance makes you miss out on a lot of things that make life so much richer and meaningful.
I invite you to discover how much you can actually heal. It’s an incredible lot; more than you think. Life can really be free from bullies and worries, because you do not attract them anymore. You are not condemned to your survival strategy and a reactive stance. When you change your attitude and energy from within, the people around you will respond very differently to you.
ABOUT ME
EXPERIENCE
LANGUAGES
English, Dutch, German
EDUCATION
I offer these therapies separately or combined, depending on your individual wishes and needs. The combination of them generates deeper and longer lasting results.
I have 15+ of work experience in the NHS in primary (IAPT) and complex care (CDAT) as well as private practice combined. Originally from The Netherlands, I have worked in Europe and Asia for many years now. I have treated disorders from any form of anxiety and depression to severe suicidal ideation and cPTSD and anything in between. I am a graduate member of the BPS (British Psychological Society), accredited by the BABCP (British Association for Behavioural & Cognitive Psychotherapies), ACTO (Asscociation for Counseling and therapy Online) and ISCA (International Systemic Constellations Association). I am recognised as Master Constellator by Constellators International (CI)
I am an accredited BABCP and accredited online therapist; I provide one-on-one and couples counseling or relationship therapy as well as family constellation (systemic work) workshops, both online and in person. As such, I offer a warm non-judgemental environment where it is safe to cry, laugh, be human, and be vulnerable in every way. You can experiment with new behaviour and discover your unknown strengths, limiting beliefs, and blocks. I keep up to date with the latest scientific developments in the field and adapt my approach accordingly. My client’s unique learning style is leading to facilitate optimal treatment results.
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I hold a: Bachelor's Degree (with Merit) and a Master’s degree (equivalent to a first) in Clinical/Health Psychology (both University of Amsterdam) University Diploma (with Merit) in CBT (Cognitive Behavioural Therapy; University of Reading). 4 Certificates in Family Constellations and Couples Counseling from the CSC (Centre for Systemic Constellations). I hold a Certificate in Online Counseling (Academy for Online Counseling) and moreover, I was trained as a Shamanic healer at the Foundation for Shamanic Studies (FSS) Certificate in Nutrition and Mental Health (EdX)
FAMILY CONSTELLATIONS
CBT
For those who are suffering from a clinical mental health issue, such as depression, trauma, PTSD, phobias or anxiety: CBT is a practical and skills-based approach that has enjoyed a lot of positive reseach outcomes. CBT challenges patterns of (negative) thinking and encourages testing out new behaviour in a safe and stepped-appraoach way. It is this practical approach is what generates more profound change and prevents relapse in the long term. Therapist and client collaborate to find the crux of the problem, each adding their expertise on the issue. The full range of disorders I treat: specific phobia, such as spider phobia, claustrophobia, agoraphobia, needle phobia, emetophobia, fear of heights, etc social phobia body dysmorphic disorder eating disorders generalised anxiety syndrome (GAD) (excessive worrying) OCD (obsessive compulsive disorder) trichotillomania (hair pulling) anger management depression low self esteem insomnia/ sleeplessness chronic fatigue syndrome trauma/ PTSD/ complex PTSD (post traumatic stress syndrome)
Are there (subconscious) patterns in your life that you just cannot seem to beat? A Family Constellation will help release possibly hidden causes of your issue. Any issue can be addressed, especially ones that feel trapped or seem hard to pin down. These may be related to behavioural problems, relationships, illness, motivation, persistent emotional symptoms, addictions, work, isolation, bereavement, belonging, anxieties, depression and suicidal ideation, and more. Family constellations look at what you are struggling with that is not yours. Research has found that we can inherit trauma. When your carreer is not going well, how does this relate to your grandmother not being allowed to study? When you make money but keep losing it, how does this relate to your great grandfather losing his business? When your love life is suffering, how does this relate to your mother losing the love of her life in an accident? You can attend a workshop; have a single 1:1 session or a series; coming back when you feel ready again. No need to bring your family. Read more about Systemic work in my blogs or watch my videos. Examples of issues that people have brought: I can't seem to find a good relationship I am no good with money, I keep losing it I have no willpower I have everything I dreamed of and I am still unhappy sometimes it feels like I have been cursed I find it very hard to put my own needs first Illness I am noticing I am favouritising one child over the other(s) I am always overlooked, I feel unheard, I feel like I don't belong To book a workshop, click here
SHAMANIC HEALING
COUPLES COUNSELING
Sometimes the things you used to love about each other start to irritate. The negativity possibly even overshadows the positives. If only the other person would not do this or would change that! Then all would be ok again. In relationship therapy we look at what patterns you both have that tap into each other and hence exacerbate any aggravations. Are there any misunderstandings? What are you doing to (make each other) feel good? What are the mutual expectations? Often clarity in such importants issues and the patterns already half resolves the issues. After this we can explore the different options for a full resolution. Experimenting with new behaviour on both sides will definitely be a part of it. Issues that are often brought here are: cheating unhappy in the bedroom imbalance in power imbalance in career dealing with one partner's mental health issues money communication in-laws how to raise the kids
If you have long-standing issues that have been resisting resolution no matter what you tried, a Shamanic Healing may help. This energetic approach lifts blockages and provides insight, treating mind and body as one. The shamanic view on ‘dis-ease’ is that we either have a shortage or surplus of energy, caused by stress or trauma. These faulty energies block your ability to solve your issue; you just haven't got the right tools. In a session the excess will be removed and the missing energy (in terms of a soul part that has split off during the stressful event) will be brought back. With the restored energy you will be able to heal that which was previously stuck. A shamanic healer will always identify your ‘power animal’, which serves as a metaphor for how you best solve problems. If needed, a journey into the future can be made to help visualize the potential outcomes of a problem depending on various approaches suggested. Examples of issues that may be brought here: I have no energy I don't know what to choose/ can't make decisions I feel numb I find it hard to trust people I have so much fear/ shame/ disgust I don't know what my goals are I have lost myself
WHICH TO CHOOSE
Each therapy is powerful by itself. And, often a combination of approaches is good to complement each other. The liberation of unconscious energies (shamanic healing) or family patterns (systemic work) can make application of the new skills (CBT) effortless. Vice versa, when we are free from unconscious drivers but are lacking skills, we don't get very far. Sometimes it is useful for the partners in couples counseling to have individual sessions as well, or for individual clients to have a partner attend one of more sessions. Indeed, there are overlaps between Family Constellations and Shamanic Healing, but the differences are complementary. Shamanic Healing deals with one’s own past, present, or future energy only, whereby Family Constellations deal with one’s systemic energy and thus historical/ family trauma. Sometimes a resolved systemic issue gives access to a new level of shamanic energy disruptors that were previously covered up. Alternatively, Shamanic Healing may restore the needed energy to deal with a systemic issue. If unsure which approach to ask for, I will happily help you choose at the beginning of your session. Or you can request an orienting chat to find out if you want to take this journey with me.
“Our life is what our thoughts make it”
Marcus Aurelius
CONTACT ME
73 Coningham Rd, Shepherd's Bush, London W12 8BS, UK
Whatsapp +447530340467
